You are currently browsing the tag archive for the ‘calm’ tag.

Breathe by szlea.

Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours

SWEDISH PROVERB

Everything in life lately seems to be both sped up and slowed down simultaneously;  it seems that way when we are on the precipice of the new and the verge of jumping out of the old.  When things shift in our world they can appear seismic and one shift can propel multiple shifts–with the change of pace to our life steps we can, in the process, leave people, lose people, separate from what doesn’t work from what was and finding what could work in the new.  What an exhilarating thing–the possibility of possibilities!  And how frightening as well.

As I launch of the edge in my present life and change the pace of my step I am both these things–exhilarated and frightened.  I think about my clients, coming into a therapy office is often the precipice of life–wanting something new, something else than what we have created in our world but so afraid of what that change could mean.  For a trauma survivor change means opening up the wounds of old ghosts and the things that haunt us, having to look them head on, and find a way to move beyond survival living and finding a way to thrive in existence.  For persons suffering from the disease of addiction coming into therapy or treatment means owning up to the first STEP in the recovery process: Admitting that my life has become unmanageable and I have no control over my addiction.  But isn’t that the way with all of us when we have to own up to what is not working in our life–admit that there is a problem and that life has become unmanageable as is.  What a brave thing to do!…And how frightening.

And so I return to breath as I often do in times of stress and renewal.  Breath is our life source, our origin, our beginning and our end is all breath and silence.  So we can go back to the root of ourselves through breath and silence.  I teach my clients breath first to find a way to bear the daunting task ahead–change.  And I constantly remind myself to return to breath when life and those in it surprise, disappoint, injure, or exhilarate.  Yesterday I taught a workshop at THE RED TENT in Delray Beach, Florida and I told a wonderful and strong group of women the importance of breath and keeping one’s gaze on a fixed point in life and in yoga, because without it we cannot maintain balance through the chaos and storms that always, inevitably come.  I continue to remind myself, as I do my clients to do this–breathe, find inner silence, and keep my gaze on the fixed point in the distance.

What is your stability–the point you can fix your gaze on in your life?

When do you find silence and breath in your day?

20 minutes dedicated to YOU per day can make a vital shift internally to help find the resilience and resolve to deal with all the externals that life throws at us!

Give yourself some time, some care, and some room to breathe.

PLEASE TAKE SOME TIME CHECK OUT MY NEW VIRTUAL WORKSHOP now available at THE WISH STUDIO called, apropos, ROOM TO BREATHE!  I AM VERY EXCITED ABOUT THIS NEW VENTURE THAT HAS BEEN SOME MONTHS IN THE WORKS!

smalllogo

http://wishstudio.com/events/

And I wanted to thank Durga at YOGA OF RECOVERY for linking to the EMBODY MENTAL HEALTH TIMES PAGE!  Thank you Durga for both your thoughtful interview and your virtual “shout-out” to the mission of this blog and EMBODY MENTAL HEALTH of being able to discuss on issues of integrative and complementary mental health!  See Durga’s interview in the previous post.

Unpaved Road Home

 

They say, whoever they are, that the road to hell is paved with good intentions but what happens when the road isn’t paved at all? 

 

The road to my new house (shown above) is definitely not paved at all and I’m pretty sure I unintentionally stumbled upon the metaphor for my life right now.  The road I am walking, the path I am taking is definitely an unpaved route.  It is rough and wild, with persistent weeds poking through the center and potential surprises with every semi-cautious step. 

 

I feel like potential avenues abound and the opportunity for the new and surprising is invigorating, I don’t know what’s next but I feel something on the horizon that leaves me buzzing with energy. 

 

At the same time I remember the experience of jumping out of my car on the first day in Florida with the same buzzing.  I was invigorated by the junglish and wildly overgrown pocket of road that hid our home and the few small surrounding cottages from the view of the highway complexes and strip malls.  I excitedly pressed my feet into the soggy earth only to screech at the three thistly balls that had wedged themselves into the flesh of my foot pad.  Beauty with hidden prickers. 

 

I, again, see the potential for metaphor in this experience.  The excitement of the new, of potential, holds in it equal potential for prickers.  Often hidden prickers.  A new blog, a new website, a new state, a new job, new speaking opportunities, and writing opportunities–so many amazing possibilities for wonderful things but also for mis-steps. 

 

I admit that I am both excited about the jungle of the new and afraid of what thistly things might be burrowed in the rich soil.  It does not mean that I will not surge forward and enjoy the buzz but it does mean that I will be aware that nothing comes in a perfect package and not expect life without error.  Overzealous expectation: that has been a past flaw that I recognize in myself. 

 

Part of the meditative, internal knowing of oneself that is part of the constant journey of contemplative practices, spiritual and personal attunement, and what is such a valuable benefit of practices like yoga necessitate us understanding our good and our bad, our unhealthy patterns, and the bumpy unpaved nature of life’s road. 

 

I have learned from living in Florida thus far that a sunny day can go dark in minutes and fluffy blue skies will at some point turn black and angry.  I know there are thistles in even the greenest earth.  And sometimes a beautiful warm evening may contain a flying beetle attack (this is a very personal experience that included a twitch-tastic panic attack). 

 

Sunny Beach Day

 

Light can turn dark and we have to know that and be able to breathe and quiet our mind even more in preparation of the darker days.  It is easy to smile at the sun, we must also learn to smile at the black cloud.  That is a lesson I am learning and working towards daily.  I think it is a lifelong pursuit. 

 

As I walk down my unpaved path and drive down my new unpaved sandy street coming home from work I am still both excited and anxious; but I accept both parts of myself and work towards a smile whatever the weather. 

 

 

The road to success is always under construction.

Lily Tomlin

 

Dark Beach Skies

Florida Family Vacation by skookum on flickr“florida family vacation” by skookum on flickr

 

My new home has afforded me three lizard encounters thus far.  The first was a bit intimate as there is a shower lizard that may or may not live in the shower drain that likes to languish and leer whilst I shower–he’s all eyes that one.  The second encounter was of the morbid kind as I picked up a box off of my ikea buffet in the entry area of the house to find a  black lizard who must have been unlucky enough to have been wedged under the box.  Soon after I lifted the box, made a pitiable squeal of surprise, and called my sister over, the poor thing went to lizard heaven (presumably full of bushy palms and a neverending supply of tiny insects for consumption) and we had to, eek, flush him down the toilet.  I can only hope the shower lizard did not have to encounter him on his way down. 

 

The third lizard was in our spare bedroom/doggie cage room and he was just meandering across the bottom of the wall–I think even the lizards move at a slower pace in Florida.  Needless to say I am on lizard alert, not sure where the next one will appear.  It is both an endearing and equally unnerving element of my new home environment.   I love lizards, I really do but I never expected to share the inside of my home with them, at least barring a beach bungalow life in Thailand or Nicaragua (two favorite vacation spots of mine which have geckos and lizards on every wall of every room). 

 

The amphibian element is only one piece of my adjustment to life in the Sunshine State.  The unprovoked acts of friendliness are another element and I have to recalibrate my Jersey-induced public prickliness to a more sunny and unsuspicious disposition.  A woman was standing behind me on line at Home Goods last night and asked where I was going to put the lovely lamp I was purchasing.  I jolted upright and fumbled, confused, for a reply.  After an awkwardly long pause, and her beginning to eye me curiously, I finally answered quickly that I would be using it in my entryway and walked out of the store hoping I had feigned-Florida well enough.  I can recall this piece of transition from my move to Colorado years  back and I know it takes some time but I have confidence that soon I will smile not flinch when someone speaks to me unprovoked and kindly in public arenas. 

 

Another transition piece that I have yet to get fully accustomed to is my newly hairless pooch.  Yes, I have shaved my little dog to a fully naked but not quite profane state.  She has transformed from looking like a miniature beagle with a pug/squirrel tail to looking something like a mini Jack Russel Terrier with a possum tail (see below).  I found very quickly that Florida is just too hot a state for a long haired tiny dog.  She was panting like crazy and shedding like mad with such a fury that three days into the move I decided that the hair just had to go.  She seems somewhat confused but overall pleased with her new do, or lack of a “do”. 

 

Hairless Doggie

 

On the whole we are a household a bit confused and fumbling.  Last night the bed was me plus two dogs and thank god we got the king-sized bed before the move as it was cramped even with all the space.  All three of us were twitchy and hyperalert the whole night long, jolting up at every strange noise.  Around 2 a.m. the rumbling thunder came in with force and was so close and roaring I could feel it in my gut.  A family divided by space and states I find myself languishing a bit in my own solitude as I fumble through the nuances and confusions of new geography alone.  At least, I think to myself, I have the dogs and the lizards to keep me company. 

 

In the quiet of an empty house, as I find myself more and more talking in full conversations with my dogs, pausing and intuiting their replies before I continue on with the dialogue, I know these are the moments in which quiet contemplation and a focus on inner calm is the most necessary.  I know that these are the times for which I prescribe such measures for my clients; in periods of uncertainty, restlessness, sadness, fear, and general discontentedness.  Just breathe, I tell them and then I progress forward in teaching them how.  I know I must remember these tools for myself and I must focus on self-care. 

 

Just breathe.  I will repeat this mantra and work for inner meditative peace and search with a bit of urgency for my yoga mat that I know is packed somewhere in the few remaining boxes.  I yearn desperately for the peace of fluidity in silence and breath.  And if I don’t find that stinking mat by tomorrow I’ll just have to go find a new one.  Perhaps even find a local class with my fun new iphone “YogaNow” application.  It is what I purchased it for; when I was fumbling, lost and confused…in search of a collective namaste kind of moment.  I think that time is soon nearing.

  

Smile, breathe and go slowly.                                         Thich Nhat Hanh

 

ocean colour scene #3 by macca on flickr

“ocean colour scene #3” by macca on flickr

January 2020
M T W T F S S
« Jun    
 12345
6789101112
13141516171819
20212223242526
2728293031  

RSS THE EMBODY MENTAL HEALTH TIMES

  • War Horse (Caballo de batalla) Pelicula Completa En Español Latino October 31, 2019
    Ver War Horse (Caballo de batalla) (2012) Pelicula completa online gratisWar Horse (Caballo de batalla) - En un pueblo inglés, Albert, el hijo de un granjero, ve nacer un potrillo. Poco después, su padre lo adquiere en una subasta, y el chico le pone de nombre Joey. Pero la familia se arruina y no tiene más remedio que vender el caballo justo cuando estalla […]
    noreply@blogger.com (Unknown)
  • Los Adiós pequeña, adiós Pelicula Completa En Español Hd October 31, 2019
    Ver Adiós pequeña, adiós 2007 Online Pelicula Completa en español LatinoAdiós pequeña, adiós - Basado en un best-seller del autor de "Mystic River", cuenta la historia de dos jóvenes detectives privados, Patrick Kenzie (Casey Affleck) y Angela Gennaro (Michelle Monaghan) que buscan a una niña de cuatro años, hija de una drogadicta (Amy Ryan), que h […]
    noreply@blogger.com (Unknown)
  • Cuando Harry encontró a Sally Pelicula Completa Español Mega October 31, 2019
    Ver Cuando Harry encontró a Sally 1990 Online Pelicula Completa en español LatinoCuando Harry encontró a Sally - Harry Burns y Sally Albright se conocen fortuitamente cuando ella se ofrece para llevarle en su coche hasta la ciudad, entablan una conversación sobre la amistad entre personas de diferente sexo; la conversación acaba en discusión, pero entre ello […]
    noreply@blogger.com (Unknown)
  • Mamá Pelicula Completa En Español Gratis October 31, 2019
    Ver Mamá 2012 Online Pelicula Completa en español LatinoMamá - Cuando una hija despierte, algo sucederá...Ver Mamá Pelicula Completa Castellano Titulo original: Mamá Reparto: Votar: 0 Popularidad: 0.6 Idioma Original: Spanish Géneros: Drama Lanzamiento: 2012-01-01 Palabras clave: Revisión:mam 2013 filmaffinity ~ mam es una pelcula dirigida por andy muschiett […]
    noreply@blogger.com (Unknown)
  • Reuniting the Rubins Pelicula Completa En Chino October 31, 2019
    Ver Reuniting the Rubins 2011 Pelicula Completa Online en español latinoReuniting the Rubins - Rubins Lenny, (Timothy Spall) un abogado, tiene que poner su sueño de retirarse en espera cuando su madre enferma (Honor Blackman) le chantajea emocionalmente para reunir a sus hijos distanciados por un día de fiesta judía.Reuniting the Rubins Pelicula Completa Esp […]
    noreply@blogger.com (Unknown)
  • Los El inocente Pelicula Completa En Español Hd October 31, 2019
    El inocente (2011) película completa en español latino online gratisEl inocente - Mickey Haller es un abogado que se ha especializado en defender a criminales de poca monta procedentes de los barrios bajos. Cuando un día se le presenta la oportunidad de defender a Louis Roulet, un rico heredero detenido por el intento de asesinato de una prostituta, su carre […]
    noreply@blogger.com (Unknown)
  • L'homme de ses rêves Pelicula Online Subtitulada October 31, 2019
    L'homme de ses rêves [2012] Pelicula Completa GratisL'homme de ses rêves - Trabjo niños y exmarido, emma está...L'homme de ses rêves Descargar Pelicula Completa Gratis Titulo original: L'homme de ses rêves Reparto: Votar: 1 Popularidad: 0.6 Idioma Original: Spanish Géneros: Lanzamiento: 2012-04-07 Palabras clave: Revisión:
    noreply@blogger.com (Unknown)
  • Millennium 2: La chica que soñaba con una cerilla y un bidón de gasolina Película Completa En Español Latino October 31, 2019
    Ver Pelicula Millennium 2: La chica que soñaba con una cerilla y un bidón de gasolina (2009) Online GratisMillennium 2: La chica que soñaba con una cerilla y un bidón de gasolina - Lisbeth Salander es buscada por la policía, tras verse envuelta en el asesinato de dos colaboradores de Millennium, a punto de sacar a la luz un escándalo sobre el comercio sexual […]
    noreply@blogger.com (Unknown)
  • 24 Horas en la vida de Querejeta Descargar Pelicula Completa En Español Latino October 31, 2019
    Ver 24 Horas en la vida de Querejeta (2012) Pelicula completa online gratis24 Horas en la vida de Querejeta - El documental se acerca a la persona y al profesional del cine tratando de desentrañar una personalidad tan fascinante como esquiva y lúcida.24 Horas en la vida de Querejeta Pelicula Completa Filtrada Español Titulo original: 24 Horas en la vida de Q […]
    noreply@blogger.com (Unknown)
  • A.I. Inteligencia Artificial Pelicula Completa Castellano October 31, 2019
    Ver A.I. Inteligencia Artificial (2001) Pelicula completa online gratisA.I. Inteligencia Artificial - En un futuro donde los avances científicos hacen posible la existencia, los humanos confían todos los aspectos de sus vidas a sofisticados robots denominados Mecas. La emoción es la última frontera en la evolución de las máquinas. Pero cuando un avanzado niñ […]
    noreply@blogger.com (Unknown)

Reader Favorites

Categories of Writings